PASTOR'S PEN: Seven ways to love your mother

By Pastor Robert Sponable

Lake Community Bible Church

I came across this Mother’s Day challenge many years ago and shared it with my congregation.  I don’t remember who the writer was, but now share it with the Lake County Star readers.

You cannot be wrong with your mother and be right with God. If your mother is still alive, regardless of your and her ages, you can love her in these 7 ways:

  1. Love her Verbally.

Paul tells us to be “imitators” of God in Eph. 5:1. Some have rightly described the Bible as God's love letter to mankind.  God has expressed His love to us.  He has said “I love you” over and over again in this Book. “I have loved you with an everlasting love ...” (Jer. 31:3) Mothers need to hear those words, “I love you,” and saying it makes you more of a man, not less!

  1. Love her Physically.

“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us”, (Rom. 5:8) “… let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth” (1 Jn. 3:18). When’s the last time you gave her a big hug, or a kiss on the cheek, or a neck rub, or just sat on the couch and held her hand for a change? She’s the first person who ever touched you. She wrapped you up in her womb for months, and you came out and first priority was to hold you, and she cuddled you, stroked your head, rubbed your feet, held your little cheeks against her, and gave you a finger to grasp. In love she did all these things, including grooming you with a licked thumb! She deserves your touch and should never have to give that up completely!

  1. Love her Patiently.

“Love is patient …” (1Cor. 13:4) Mothers have an incredible job with no pay. No position in the business world compares to the physical, emotional, and spiritual commitment she has in motherhood. Love her patiently. Just because she’s tender to your needs is no reason to take advantage of her, it’s reason to be patient and to love her all the more. For us adults with living mothers: love her patiently.

  1. Love her Attentively.

“Know well the condition of your flocks, and pay attention to your herds.” (Prov. 27:23). “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever,” (1Ti.  5:8). Your mother will always be on your side. In older days, our parents have many fears and anxieties. May we treat them as we’d hope to be treated when we are in their shoes!

  1. Love her Gratefully.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” (Eph.  6:1-2). Honor your father and mother is the first commandment with a promise. We can't honor our parents if we are not grateful for them. An elementary science class had been studying magnets, and how metal objects are attracted to them. At the end of semester teacher put on exam this question: “This word has six letters, starts with “M” and picks up things; what am I?” More half the children wrote “Mother”! The bottom line is we owe her big time! She needs a sincere thank you, and not just today, but from a genuinely thankful heart when least expected!

  1. Love her Generously.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ," (Eph.  1:3). No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly,” (Psa. 84:11). There’s nothing too good for her and we could never repay her, but we ought to die trying before she dies! She didn’t spend on herself unless all of your needs were met. Now it’s time for her to have something she wants!

  1. Love her Honorably.

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you,” (Ex. 20:12). This is binding so long as your mother lives.

When the Lord created mothers, He was into His sixth day of overtime, when an angel appeared and said, “You’re doing a lot of fiddling around on this one.” The Lord replied: “have you seen the specs on this order? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic; have 180 moveable parts, all replaceable run on black coffee and leftovers; have a lap that disappears when she stands up; a kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointing love affair; and six pair of hands.”

The angel shook his head slowly and said, “Six pair of hands? No way!” “It’s not the hands that are causing me problems,” replied the Lord. “It’s the three pair of eyes that mothers have to have.  One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks ‘what are you kids doing in there?’ when she already knows. Another in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn’t, but what she needs to know, and of course the ones in front that look at a child when he goofs up and say, ’I understand and I love you,’ without so much as uttering a word. I’m so close to creating something so close to myself. Already, I have one who heals herself when she is sick, can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger, and get a nine year old to stand under a shower. Not only can she think, she can reason and compromise.”

Finally, the angel bent over and ran his finger across the cheek of the mother. “There’s a leak,” he pronounced. “I told you that you were trying to put too much in this model.” “That’s not a leak,” said the Lord, “it’s a tear.” “What is it for?” asked the angel. The Lord replied, “It’s for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness and pride in her children.” “You’re a genius!” shouted the angel. With a somber look on his face, the Lord said, “I didn’t put it there.” Praise God for mothers! The crowning jewel of God’s creation!

  1. Love her Verbally.
  2. Love her Physically
  3. Love her Patiently.
  4. Love her Attentively.
  5. Love her Gratefully.
  6. Love her Generously.
  7. Love her Honorably.